Why men love bitches” (from doormat to dream-girl) by Shery Argov.
It’s not about being a bitch per sei, but to be aware of male behavior,
being assertive, protect yourself, not be gullible and never let
men take advantage of you, jump through hoops, or overcompensate, because of insecurity, or low self-esteem. You see, being needy, or desperate is a turn-off for men and they can smell it on
you. The minute a guy can tell that he’s got you, he tends to lose interest.
The bitch is smart & keeps him on his toes. She’s unpredictable
and plays by her own rules. She doesn’t sacrifices her life, her
hobbies, friends and interests. She stays true to who she is, with
or without a man. She doesn’t need a man to be happy.
Men love women who are independent , with her interests, her
own life, which puts less pressure on him.
The difference between a bitch & a doormat, is that the bitch does
not put up with bad behavior & demands respect, with her actions,
while the doormat bends over backwards to accommodate a man.
The result is that he will take her for granted.
If the bitch is with a guy who is in a bad mood, or he misbehaves…
then she will cut the date short, with a polite excuse as “let’s call
it a night” to teach him she won’t tolerate anything less than a
good time. The doormat however, will do anything to cheer him
up and will jump through hoops to do so. If he asks her to drive
to his place, bring him things, cook for him, she will comply.
If a date is late, the doormat will wait, while the bitch leaves after
20 minutes. Her time is valuable and she’s got a life.
The doormat is always available & accepts last-minute dates, while
the bitch waits for no one and is often too busy with her own life,
which makes her a challenge and something to be conquered.
When it comes to sex… the doormat is an easy lay, since she’s
so desperate to have a man & doesn’t trust that she can hold his
interest. The bitch is confidant, knowing she has plenty to offer
outside of the boudoir. She lets him wait, which makes her more
alluring and less predictable.
Who do you think a man will respect more?
Women must learn not to reward a man for bad behavior.
Don’t do things he can do for himself like laundry, or cleaning
Don’t pay for a man ( his rent, clothes, bills, etc. )
Don’t be gullible and believe everything he says.
Don’t wear your heart on your sleeve
Don’t be”too available”
Don’t drop your plans, or friends, when a guy calls
Don’t have sex “too soon” ( 3-5 dates )
Don’t drive to his place to pick him up for a date
Don’t accept “last-minute” dates
Don’t tolerate bad behavior
Don’t chase a man
Be your own person
Listen and look out for red flags
Keep your friends and interests
Be slightly unpredictable
Keep busy with your own life
Be assertive about what you want ( or don’t want )
Stay just outside of his reach, so he won’t take you for granted
Be wary of the guy who talks too much, makes promises right
off the bat and speaks about the future. Major red flag!
The ideal date ( = mate ) both speaks and listens equally. He is
focused on you and asks questions about you, showing interest
in who you are.
Pay close attention to “his pattern” of conduct. Is he consistent
( calles every 2-3 days? ) or does he “blow hot and cold” ( coming
on strong & then pulling back and disappearing for a week or more?)
Watch his body language when you ask him questions. Does he
answer spontaneously, look you in the eye, or is he evasive, stalls
and fidgets? Make sure to ask important questions in person to be
able to observe him and his reaction.
Et voila ladies. Be smart with your heart and think long-term
gratification. Easy come, easy go! Respect is earned, not given,
so learn to take it slow, with a new man and judge by the way he
treats you and the people around you, not his words, or promises.